So I know its been a min. since I wrote anything for us singles. Im so terribly sorry for that. I was browsing thru my old notes from 2009 and got inspired to write a new note for the singles.* Glory to GOD!:) So in July it will be 4years that I've been single. Out of choice and obedience to God. So, this letter will NOT be about how to get a husband, but how to be fulfilled/satsified being a single woman/man of the Lord while waiting for the husband/wife the Creator has created for you. I was going to go one way in this note, but I have been driven to go another route:) Now, We all know when we come to know the Lord our God, it all starts with a *RELATIONSHIP* with Christ. But how can you know God w/out really knowing Him? You need a relationship. A relationship blesses us with the benefits to learn who people are in our lives. rather its a great,good,or bad relationship. It helps us to see who that person is as a whole[by the fruit they produce],and their purpose in our lives, and their intentions with us. So with that said, we know its impossible to know God unless we have a relationship with Him.And w/out His relationship how can we know His purpose in our lives? The beauty of knowing Him? Lately, and I myself am guilty of this from time to time, I hear singles of the Lord complaining about their season. Singleness is just a season[for some.] But, we know in every season we are to glorify God! We know that every season serves a purpose in our lives, being that it's God's hands Who placed the season there in the first place. Now, to have joy or find contentment in your season is totally up to you. Infact, that is what the Lord desires. To feel uncontent, youre saying youre unsatisfied. And if we're unsatisfied, that must mean Jesus isnt satisfying us, which is a problem. When we start to desire something other than Jesus, and become weary beacuse of it, we're saying Jesus IS NOT enough,or that we're not trusting in His plan that He has already designed for us before we were born.  If God NEVER planned for you to get married, will you still serve Him?"Well, Jenny why would you ask that question?" Sometimes, we serve idols in our walk with Him and dont even realize them. This was my case last year. Last year, God revealed to me that I held on to that desire for sooooo long that it became an idol. I placed that desire before Him. So , it was no WONDER why I was easily distracted when a guy came into my life. No wonder why I was so easily hurt when people asked me "why arent you married like yo bro or your sis?" No wonder why I wasnt FULLY satsified in my singleness. No wonder why my desire grew day in and day out. But at the same time I was being selfish with my desire, Christ was there hurting. His desire was for ME! To come close to Him. To know&understand the beauty of being single. We have to learn to surrender to God's will in our lives. I remeber,[before I forget], what Lecrae said in His Song:Dont waste Your Life:"Your money, singleness, talent, your time/they we're loaned to you/to show the world/that Christ is divine"  When 'Crae spit this at a concert one day and spoke about it, GOD HIT ME! I was like, whoa!! This singlness isnt MINE!!!! BUT HIS! I'm to serve this for HIM! He let me borrow this singlness! to serve a GREATER purpose I hadnt known all this time:) [ Like I said, in my 3 1/2 years of singleness, I kept going up&down. Christ giving me the high's, flesh drawing in the Low's]. So, as stated above, my desire was serving an idol and I didn't know that until Christ revealed it to me last year.Well, within that year He taught me what to do when desires come and how to give them back to Him. How to fully surrender to Him. So, next time your singleness begins to cry out, ask youreslf the question:,"Is my desire really that deep? Is it deeper than Christ? Can it really sastifiy me more than Christ?" and then begin to remeber ALL the things God has done in your life where it was just you and Him. The tears He dried. When He held your hand thru the dark tunnels of life.The butt yah kicked when flesh tried to reside back in its old self. The words He spoke. The peace He gave when you were loosing it. The laughter you guys shared.The paths He directed. There's so much I can list, but you know them all. Let yo thoughts do a slideshow in your mind right quick. Now, do you realize the peace that youre feeling? You recognize that smile on your lips. Thats what God does! Man[woman] cant do that! ONLY GOD! So now that we discussed somewhat about how relationships are important to God, how relationships with Him help us to see Who He is and His heart for us, we've discussed how not being content in our singleness is dangerous, because it can lead for that desire to serve a role as an idol in our lives and not realize it, and how our singleness belongs to God, but He loaned it to us for HIS SPECIFIC PURPOSE!. Let's now discuss what that purpose is. Paul wrote in 1Cor.7:32-34 "32 But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 33 But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. 34 There is[a] a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband." So, God is showing us, since we are single and of the Lord, we shouldnt be worried about the person we are to marry, but that we should be focused on how to please the Lord with our lives! We are His and we belong to Him. We should be focused on what He has called us to do.When we are single, we have more time for the Lord. But when youre married, you gotta worry about your spouse, kids, and God. Instead of busing ourselves in thoughts of wanting someone, we should busy ourselves in the works of God. Knowing He got us. He knows Who He has for us[if its in His plans]. He knows when we're gonna meet them, and even how. So why are we worried about it. Sure, it'll be awesome to have someone next to your side to share in the ministry, but you do! You already have someone..You have CHRIST! Let Him be the one to joy in His ministry with YOU!:) So, now I want you to close your eyes, and envision why you want a mate so much.[other than physcial appearnces],but what do you desire? A hold,appreciation,joy,fulfillment,support,care,understanding?...Open youre eyes. Do you see it? Its standing right by you. It's Christ!:) He loves you! He's supporting you. He understands you!He wants to share your life WITH HIM!:) Do you NOT know how much youre really worth to Him. Read Psalms 139:) So, now we know that it begins with a relationship with Christ.We understand the purpose of relationships. We've pointed out how being uncontent can lead to placing desires before Him.We know that our singleness isnt ours, but it belongs to the Lord.We learned some of the purposes that singleness serves. We discovered the joy in being single. and we learned that it ends with a relationship with Christ:) Did you catch that? everything is surrounded by CHRIST!The key point of the note: CHRIST IS ALL WE NEED & DESIRE! He IS THE FULL SATISFICATION! HE IS OUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER!:)   1 Corinthians 7:25-40 To the Unmarried and Widows    25 Now concerning virgins: I have no commandment from the Lord; yet I give judgment as one whom the Lord in His mercy has made trustworthy. 26 I suppose therefore that this is good because of the present distress—that it is good for a man to remain as he is: 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you. 29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short, so that from now on even those who have wives should be as though they had none, 30 those who weep as though they did not weep, those who rejoice as though they did not rejoice, those who buy as though they did not possess, 31 and those who use this world as not misusing it. For the form of this world is passing away. 32 But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 33 But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. 34 There is[a] a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. 35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction. 36 But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry. 37 Nevertheless he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his own will, and has so determined in his heart that he will keep his virgin,[b] does well. 38 So then he who gives her[c] in marriage does well, but he who does not give her in marriage does better. 39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgment—and I think I also have the Spirit of God. Nov16_00071 -Daughter of a King!